This week I didn’t get out to have a fabulous lunch with my girlfriends. There were no fancy dinners. No “date” nights. Not even a coffee date. This week…I did exactly nothing for me. I drove the kids from A to B. I worked. I cleaned up the same messes I always do. I cooked a thankless number of dinners. Then I cleaned up. I bitched about the lights being left on and the dishes in the sink. This dull, dark, cold week. It sucked. Part of this is my own fault. I didn’t strive to make a coffee date with girlfriends, didn’t plan on a dinner date with my sister. Settled on Netflix instead of a movie night out. I didn’t make the effort to shake things up. But you know what? I was freaking tired. And this crappy week, it is what it is. This week, it was my reality.
Then a phone call with a dear friend, a “check -in” a bit of a reality check, and the world was righted again. Sometimes life, is just …dull. We often live in that suspended moment waiting for the next big thing. Are stuck in a pattern that involves kids first, us last. And usually the little shining moments that happen throughout our day are enough to make us smile, shine, even sing. Other days? Enough is enough and the laundry on the bathroom floor can make you want to stomp your feet like a 2 year old.
We must strive to remember that the lives we all see on Facebook, Instagram or even on Television are full of crap. People are not out every day living the perfect lives with perfect teeth and fabulous designer clothes. Most people are working hard every day, running to the grocery store, struggling with bratty or sick kids, and eking out some laughter somewhere in between. The key is for the laughs, the smiles, the giggles and the love to outweigh the crap. To spend a little more time having dinner with friends, a little less time whining about dishes at home. To know there isn’t always time to head out for coffee, but there’s almost always time for a phone call and a good old fashioned chat. Gossip optional.
Three cheers for the girlfriends that are always there when you need them. Praise for the hour long phone calls. And here you go. A huge hug for anyone who needs it.
Mwah XOXO
Yep some aspects of social media can make you feel inadequate. I just pretend it’s a novel or a movie.
We all have our bad days weeks years etc. but if only they were as great as on everyone’s social media, what a great dream !
Friends always know just what you need anytime, anywhere. Who needs a “perfect” life like Hollywood says, quality time and friends/families are what matters
You described it perfectly. I love how you said, more dinners with friends and less time whining about dishes at home. I think we need to concentrate on quality time with others and worry less about the stuff that doesn’t really matter so much in the grand scheme of things, like those dirty dishes 🙂
Thank you! Thank you! LOL! Social media “life” is NOT REAL and I love that you stated that… I have friends who consistently post their social activities, but I can pretty much guarantee that its all fake. Real life is at times difficult, repetitious, not glamourous… And real life is honest and beautiful. 🙂
You’re so welcome. Imagine if everyone was just a little more honest, tweeted about not just their kids perfect skating score, but also the time they fell flat on their face? Life is hard and we will all get through it, it would just be easier if we all realized the rough and tough stuff is okay too.
My week sounds exactly like your week. Did nothing for myself. Stuck in the house because of the wretched cold and snow with a 3 year old boy with TONS of energy and no where to go. It sucks. I always get depressed around this time of year because it’s just so damn dark, cold and miserable outside. My one saving grace, ONE, is my hubby can watch our boys on Saturday and Sunday so I can get my runs in. If I didn’t have him, I don’t know what I would do. I have no other family support. None.
Oh sending you love! I remember those days with little one’s and counting down the minutes until my Hubby got home just to help carry the load. Staying at home with the kiddos is one of the hardest jobs in the world. Hugs and strength to you. You’ve got this! Hope we get some sunshine this week so we all feel a little brighter!
I know right! Some of my weeks seem so crazy busy..but then when I reflect back on them it’s like wtf did i do? lol…. venting, everyone needs it everyone does it….
I always try to get out at least once a week.. cause under my roof I am Mom, always Mom.
YES! Always Mom. Not that we don’t love it right? But every Mama needs a break once in a while 🙂 Hope you have a fabulous week.
I have been away from home since December 17( no vehicle since New Years) staying with my 86 year old mom had who a hip replacement. I am hoping to get home soon. Small community in which I grew up, so every time I do get to go out (walk or bum a ride) I connect with someone I have not seen for years.
I’m sorry to hear about your Mom. That sounds hard. I do love that you’ve found a silver lining. Three cheers for old friends and family love !
So many things I’d rather do than deal with the leaky sink pipe and the laundry but they gotta get done too.
Truth! Sometimes adulting sucks. Hope your week gets better!
This is so true no one posts about the problems they have. Only the highlight reel of their lives.
Imagine if everyone was just a little bit more honest. Not whiney all the time, just a little more honest about how sometimes life is hard. Perhaps we’d all feel a little bit better about our state of selves.
Totally get you…a lot of life is dull and mundane and boring but thank goodness for those special moments that do make us smile and laugh!
We have to find the bright moments where we can! Cheers!
I think this week was crappy for everyone. No sunshine and no people. I totally accepted extra snuggles with my cats. lol
Extra snuggles are always a good idea!
I love this!! I’d the reality over the fake grass ANY day. Social media can often be depressing. I love catching up with my girlfriends and when I’m in a rut, they pull my out! 😊
Oh ya the perfect social media life, don’t we all wish it was like that. I have to say mine is far from perfect..lol…right now it is rather boring doing just the normal everyday life chores.
I think “boring” is so normal. We just have to find the joy in the everyday. (and remember no matter what we see on Instagram…no one has a perfect life) 🙂
If only life was as good as on social media,we would all have the perfect one !
This is exactly true! Perhaps we need a “truth” day on social media. Where people show pictures of their messy kitchens, piles of laundry and extremely bad hair days! 🙂
haha,i could be posting right now….having the worst hair ever and the house is a mess,we just got back from a month vacation