I worry all the time, but tell them not to. Yeah, that won’t mess them up at all.
I want them have it all, I want to give them the world, but I want them to work for it. I don’t want to raise spoiled, entitled children! Conflicting messages much?
I push them to do there homework, to be sure to do their very best, even when they are tired. While under my breath I am cursing the teacher for piling on a book report, science test and social studies test all the same week. Do you think the baby girl can sense that I am beyond ticked off at this work load? Does my body language, my heavy sighs at the announcement of yet another small “project” register? Yeah, probably.
I want my girls to go to school in nice clothes, well presented and clean….but I am too damn tired to fight about socks AGAIN. Mismatched. Fine. Kind of clean. Sigh. Good enough.
My oldest is hitting the age where she needs to shower more often. I strongly encourage her to do so. When I say strongly…this means there is sometimes always stomping feet and slamming doors. First to get her to get in, then to get her out, then to get her to dry her hair? WTH! Fighting with a pre-teen. That’s healthy. Must remember, I am the adult.
Pimples are starting. Ug. I remember wanting to hide in my room all day because of one little zit. Full confession, sometimes I still do. Dear Daughter doesn’t seem to care? Huh? Thankfully, she has not been teased or tortured. YET. I want to help her avoid those moments of pain if I can. I have bought her every fabulous face wash I can find and a bunch of pretty wash cloths to encourage face washing while trying to “keep it light”. I don’t want to turn it into a big deal. Today, before she went to school…I offered to put cover-up on one of those zits. Parent fail.
It is official. I am screwing up my kids.
Maybe I should let them start a blog to b*tch about me.
It’s gonna be cheaper then therapy.
Recipe for possibly being a good parent: Love ’em as they are. Offer help and push ’em in the right direction as needed. Pick your battles. Know when to back off. Hope for the best.
Sounds like you’re doing it right!
Hey .. just read this after assisting oldest with popping a zit. It’s gonna happen and no one wants to walk around with a zit no matter how old they are. You’re doing a find job and only an anonymous, poor, sad little person would criticize you for it.
The problem is theirs not yours… continue to share and rejoice in the fact that your real followers are right behind ya!!!! hugs!!!!
it is so hard to raise girls these days. I go through the same stuff as you. I would have covered it up too..lol.
I could have written this post. I have to drag my 12 year old daughter into the shower kicking and screaming. That with her exploding face and hair everywhere makes it all the more urgent. She doesn’t care what she wears and her hair is is giant frizzy puffball plus she’s a bit overweight. She’s my only daughter in a house full of boys. Is it too much to ask for a shopping buddy that smells like Love’s Baby Soft?
Clearly, that ridiculous Anonymous commenter is projecting her own crap on to you. You are lovely and a fabulous mom, and please don’t let some sad person ever make you question that. I, like every other commenter on here, supports you and quite honestly, I’m sure most if not all of us can TOTALLY relate. There will always be those mean people who have nothing better to do than try to feel better about themselves by trying to make other feel badly. You’re awesome, and clearly, she sucks big lemons.
I am not sure how a parent showing concern & giving time & attention to their children could ever be bad! And as for coverup, try a mineral based one, they work WONDERS!!
Dear Anonymous ASS,
Buy yourself a dictionary.
“I want them have it all, I want to give them the world, but I want them to work for it. I don’t want to raise spoiled, entitled children! Conflicting messages much?” <--- loved this. As for the showering i say try your best, don’t bother pushing just wait for the kids at school to say something… then BOOM!! showers everyday and you’ll have no hot water in teh house lol!
Dear Anonymous
I wish you would have come out from where you are hiding from and commented so we could have a real conversation. If you have read my blog for any lenght of time you would know that everything I write is done with humour.
You would also know that I love my daughters above all else and would never ever do anything that would honestly ever “mess them up”.
My DD is more then fine, was thrilled that I could cover up her pimple for her as she was having pictures taken that day and was very upset. I stand by what I did and would do it again in a heartbeat.
I just want to say THANK YOU!!! for helping me understand that I am not alone. Boys don’t like the showering thing either. They also get pimples and hubbie is threatening to buy one boy the ultra expensive pimple creams that come from the Pharmacy, while I haven’t seen the pimples yet? Balance? nope.
Also you win for better parent, my child wasn’t allowed to go to school yesterday.
Believe me, if that’s all you are doing – then you are soooo not screwing up your kids! Promise.
But otherwise I think you’re totally FABULAS!
WHOA! REALITY CHECK!
You are right FAIL!!!This is the first I’ve read you as being a vein person (read:loser). Socks don’t matter, really. but GAWD Do you know what you are going to do to your daughters self-esteem and personal morals with your obsession and over concern with HER looks, ZiTs, blemishes? Just because YOU have issues doesn’t mean she SHOULD. ..Lame, lame, LAME. At least you know you should fix YOUR ISSUES now because if you don’t she’s gonna think you judge her by her appearence. I’d be careful with that. Some parts of this post remind me of the movie Spanglish:( Stop your insanity and veiness or you’ll end up with a depressed, anerexic/belemic daughter who cuts herself, or acts out sexually because not even her own mother LOVES her unconditionally for who she is and what she looks like. Hope tomorrow sees you embracing her sweet zitty face. Oh and BTW- if you really wanna tear her down, ruin her and crush her self-esteem -offer to FIX her again…geesh.
ha. i would be scared what mine would have to say…
I already think I’m messing up my kids and they are only (almost)5 & 3 (baby doesn’t count, lol). I’m sure you are doing a great job and I agree with the person who said that they probably won’t remember it anyway 🙂