I worry all the time, but tell them not to. Yeah, that won’t mess them up at all.
I want them have it all, I want to give them the world, but I want them to work for it. I don’t want to raise spoiled, entitled children! Conflicting messages much?
I push them to do there homework, to be sure to do their very best, even when they are tired. While under my breath I am cursing the teacher for piling on a book report, science test and social studies test all the same week. Do you think the baby girl can sense that I am beyond ticked off at this work load? Does my body language, my heavy sighs at the announcement of yet another small “project” register? Yeah, probably.
I want my girls to go to school in nice clothes, well presented and clean….but I am too damn tired to fight about socks AGAIN. Mismatched. Fine. Kind of clean. Sigh. Good enough.
My oldest is hitting the age where she needs to shower more often. I strongly encourage her to do so. When I say strongly…this means there is sometimes always stomping feet and slamming doors. First to get her to get in, then to get her out, then to get her to dry her hair? WTH! Fighting with a pre-teen. That’s healthy. Must remember, I am the adult.
Pimples are starting. Ug. I remember wanting to hide in my room all day because of one little zit. Full confession, sometimes I still do. Dear Daughter doesn’t seem to care? Huh? Thankfully, she has not been teased or tortured. YET. I want to help her avoid those moments of pain if I can. I have bought her every fabulous face wash I can find and a bunch of pretty wash cloths to encourage face washing while trying to “keep it light”. I don’t want to turn it into a big deal. Today, before she went to school…I offered to put cover-up on one of those zits. Parent fail.
It is official. I am screwing up my kids.
Maybe I should let them start a blog to b*tch about me.
It’s gonna be cheaper then therapy.
Yes, yes, of course I “like” you. I one of the 872. 🙂
I just started this FB thing today. I’m hoping to generate some more traffic for my giveaway. Tim at MikWright is so awesome and he’s being so generous!
Hope it helps.
I actually came across a book from American Doll that had a lot of those issues covered in it for young girls. I bought it for my great niece who doesn’t seem to care either. My son didn’t care about his zits, my daughter picked hers. My sons face is now clear and our daughter has scares. We are all just like you, this is how parents are. I agree, they give out way to much homework.
Been there. Done that. All of “that.”
In fact, I went out and bought my son “pimple cream” for the few he has on his nose. I gave him some of my cleanser. Told him how to use both. Nope. Doesn’t seem to care, either. If I bring it up, he just hisses at me (Secretly I think he’s doing it because they went away – score one for mom!).
We’re in the middle of hockey season and I’m about ready to lose it (kids who don’t get off the ice, crappy coaching, etc.). Trying to protect him and all. We just want the best for our darlings. It’s only natural to want to protect them, yet feel like we fail them at times in doing so. Where is the “happy medium?” It’s so hard to let go.
School project thing…I almost posted our most recent one on my blog. My son had to create a 3-D DNA model. Arts and crafts at its finest. Grrr…
Take care, my friend.
Hang in there. You’re a fabulous mother!
Thank goodness Sheldon is 21, not even scarred for life. My mom’s best advice to me, “I did it to you and you lived”. They won’t even remember 1/100th of the stuff you do to them.
I’m sure one day, they’ll appreciate it!
Quit popping my ballon! I thought we were SUPPOSED to screw them up!?
I can totally relate! I have a pre teen too. It is so hard. But I’m glad to know that I am not the only one who goes through this stuff. I laughed about the socks because it is the same in our house!
I completely understand the shower thing, my son I swear once he turned 10 he didn’t think showering was an important thing. I homeschool my son so there are plenty of days when I think Oh My God I am screwing up my kids education and he’s going to end up living with me forever lol. We all feel that way but I think we are all doing a pretty good job:-)
You’re not failing. There is no manual on parenting. I would copy and paste this email my mom sent to me about parenting but it would take up the whole comment section. It was really good.
So the zit thing. It kills me. I have a third eye growing…no joke. Smack dab in the middle of my eyebrows. Why? There should be a shot that everyone gets after your teenage years that permanently stops zits from forming.
Your doing great. You remind me of my mom as a teen.
You are so NOT screwing up your kids! You’re an excellent mother with very rational fears and concerns and issues!
I have only just started getting homework brought home with my son who is in senior kindergarten – it took us three days to finish his first ‘assignment’ and I was so stressed out – can you imagine in the years to come? OMG!
Isn’t that what all parents do? Screw up our kids?
I’m there with the homework already. I roll my eyes at my son’s assignments.
i have boys but i so understand your pain.
on the up side, our kids will be so screwed up, we can set them up with each other and they will think they are normal!
Aww you are human. Screwing your kids up is not that bad. It gives them a barometer of how not to screw up theirs.
hi!
I have 2 girls, 9 and 6 y/o. It’s what I fear, them being teens. I now witness stomping feet whenever I tell them do something they are force to do.
If only I can stop time so they will not be teens. Hahaha
There’s no bad parent, it’s a trial and error thing. And if they curse you for failing them, they didn’t mean it that way. You’re their only mom! They don’t have a choice!hahaha
have a nice day! love your blog!
All I know is, it is HARD to raise kids these days. But you are doing a GREAT job, simply because you care enough to be there for your kids and try to teach them the important things in life, so that it will be better/easier for them (there are so many parents who don’t even bother)!!