Why do I feel the need to please the world?
Why do I care what the girl at Tim Hortons thinks of me, or the waitress at the not so fab restaurant??
When confronted with
“Gee Miss, Why would you save up these free doughnuts and bring them in all at once, you are not supposed to do this”. Huff Huff
I just blinked, and startled threw in some extra pleases and thank you’s, as if she was doing me a huge favour by granting my girls their one free doughnut each. I sure as hell didn’t see any rule that said I couldn’t cash in more then one free coupon at a time! Oh and since when is cashing in two free doughnuts instead of one such a big deal!! Why didn’t I tell her just to get me my coffee and doughnuts and do her job. The question is….Why do I care if she likes me?
When presented with an ice cold turkey and stuffing dinner at a local eatery, I did summon up the courage to inform the server that my meal, and Hubby’s were both very cold. She asked if she could stick it in the microwave? Hmmm. Again, it took courage? for me to say “Actually, no. I would prefer a new plate.” Turkey and mashed covered in congealed gravy was not really going to work for me. She begrudgingly agreed and went to get me a new plate. I’m pretty sure it was a sneezer. It was almost as craptastic as the first dinner and I didn’t eat it, and didn’t tell her. Why? I am a ridiculous people pleaser and didn’t want to wreck her day and deal with the hassle, the confrontation. I will admit Hubby was less then pleased and did speak with the manager about this one.
So what is it about me? Why MUST everyone like me? Why do I break into a cold sweat trying to please the world. Maybe I need therapy!
New rule. Next time a coffee serving doughnut slinging chick gives me attitude. I’m going to go all George Costanza on her a$$. (You know….he thought of the witty come back 5 minutes too late, except I’m going to have the witty come back right away and I’m going to use it!!)
Tell doughnut chick if she has a problem with the coupon redemption rules she needs to take it up with her manager not me!! (ohhh even to type it was hard…lol)
Next time I get bad service in a restaurant, I will NOT fear the sneezer. I will be polite, but firm. I happen to know the owners of a restaurant wouldn’t want patrons leaving as unhappy and as hungry as we did.
I am going to stop starting sentences with “I’m Sorry to bother you…” Cause you know what, most times I’m not! I’m just being OVERLY polite and afraid of upsetting every poor soul in the world.
I guess what I’m saying is I’m 38 years old and finally figuring out I really don’t have to take it anymore!
Either that or I have a wicked case of PMS.
Ha. End of Vent.
*patting you on the back*
Make plans to come to my house for our Thanksgiving…it’ll all be good and I’ll let some of my Italian spunk rub off onto ya…um…
Really, it’s not snot, just um…well never mind.
I’m also way too polite. We spend way too much energy worrying about that kind of stuff. Think it is a female thing!
This is me too!
Working on it, and it’s kind of liberating.
As for the redemption of the more than one roll up the wins? Total bull crap. I used to work at Tim Horton’s a couple years ago. She was just being a heifer.
I’m SO with you! I am WAY too nice to people who don’t deserve it. There are certain expectations with a job, and we shouldn’t be amazed when workers do what is expected of them.
I’m the same way. Now my husband- that is another story, he doesn’t mind one bit being flat out rude. I actually think he enjoys it, lol.
I know I’m such a gLeek! My school didn’t have a club either but I would’ve totally done it!
I do this a lot! It’s sounds very Canadian!!! LoL
No, you are absolutely correct, girl! You are NOT bothering someone who’s job it is to serve you. (Was that English?)
When I waited on someone I always wanted their expperience to be good. And as long as they were polite about it, I bebt over backwards to make it right.
TOTALLY FEEL YA SISTER…
i ALWAYS tell myself that most ppl don’t care about what others think of them.. so why should i… but yea, i still do care!
is this post about you or ME? i am the same way and lately it’s been driving me NUTS! i try to not care, but i don’t know that i have it in me. ugh. stupid. let me know if you ever find out how to not care anymore… i’d seriously love to know!!
I’ll never understand why some people care about stuff like that. It’s not like she is losing any money on the doughnuts. She’s just collecting her $10/hour and heading home.
I used to be like this too before I had the same revelation. Now I can safely say that I’ve struck fear in the hearts of several people that copped an attitude with me. And I hate to admit it, but it didn’t feel so bad.
I’m really not a bully, I promise.
Hahahah.. that totally changes with age…I used to be the same ..now it going the other direction…”watch out cuz here I come”…is my new mantra…and ya know what ..ya get treated way better…but that dont mean they’re going to like you behind your back..LOL…!!
I tend to be a people-pleaser and it can zap you of energy FAST. You gave me a lot to think about today! Now I’m going out there and kick some butt and I don’t care if people like it or not!
I am the anti people pleaser. I could give a hoot who likes me. I have no tolerance for incompetence. I don’t hesitate to say so.
One of the things that I have learned by giving up on my desire to please people, is that the people who surround me now, be it as a server in a restaurant, cashier at the grocery store, or my friends, are people who genuinely like and respect me, and would not hesitate to go out of their way for me. I couldn’t ask for anything more.