Why do I feel the need to please the world?
Why do I care what the girl at Tim Hortons thinks of me, or the waitress at the not so fab restaurant??
When confronted with
“Gee Miss, Why would you save up these free doughnuts and bring them in all at once, you are not supposed to do this”. Huff Huff
I just blinked, and startled threw in some extra pleases and thank you’s, as if she was doing me a huge favour by granting my girls their one free doughnut each. I sure as hell didn’t see any rule that said I couldn’t cash in more then one free coupon at a time! Oh and since when is cashing in two free doughnuts instead of one such a big deal!! Why didn’t I tell her just to get me my coffee and doughnuts and do her job. The question is….Why do I care if she likes me?
When presented with an ice cold turkey and stuffing dinner at a local eatery, I did summon up the courage to inform the server that my meal, and Hubby’s were both very cold. She asked if she could stick it in the microwave? Hmmm. Again, it took courage? for me to say “Actually, no. I would prefer a new plate.” Turkey and mashed covered in congealed gravy was not really going to work for me. She begrudgingly agreed and went to get me a new plate. I’m pretty sure it was a sneezer. It was almost as craptastic as the first dinner and I didn’t eat it, and didn’t tell her. Why? I am a ridiculous people pleaser and didn’t want to wreck her day and deal with the hassle, the confrontation. I will admit Hubby was less then pleased and did speak with the manager about this one.
So what is it about me? Why MUST everyone like me? Why do I break into a cold sweat trying to please the world. Maybe I need therapy!
New rule. Next time a coffee serving doughnut slinging chick gives me attitude. I’m going to go all George Costanza on her a$$. (You know….he thought of the witty come back 5 minutes too late, except I’m going to have the witty come back right away and I’m going to use it!!)
Tell doughnut chick if she has a problem with the coupon redemption rules she needs to take it up with her manager not me!! (ohhh even to type it was hard…lol)
Next time I get bad service in a restaurant, I will NOT fear the sneezer. I will be polite, but firm. I happen to know the owners of a restaurant wouldn’t want patrons leaving as unhappy and as hungry as we did.
I am going to stop starting sentences with “I’m Sorry to bother you…” Cause you know what, most times I’m not! I’m just being OVERLY polite and afraid of upsetting every poor soul in the world.
I guess what I’m saying is I’m 38 years old and finally figuring out I really don’t have to take it anymore!
Either that or I have a wicked case of PMS.
Ha. End of Vent.
I don’t stand up for myself all the time but I am much better then I use to be. It’s okay to say NO!
Glad you sent your meal back 🙂
Well, please don’t hate me, but is it because you are Canadian? 😀 Canadians are so polite!
I used to be very polite too, and then I moved to China. No one here is polite to anyone they don’t know. It’s very liberating in a way. Now I am aggressive and mean. I should stay out of Canada for a while. 😀
Good for you…do it! You are a customer..and the customer is always right. Businesses won’t survive without them!
(BTW, my hubby is a people pleaser, too and it drives me nutso!)
lol I am 38 also and I learned to not crap anymore either. But yeah when I was younger that waa really really hard to send food back or something like that.
Good luck. Im forever worrying about everyone else….!
It’s actually good to be liked. No one likes me and I get sad.
It’s true, once you get older you stop taking sh*t from people. I don’t deal with rude and stupid people anymore. I totally speak my mind.
So don’t wait until you’re in your 40’s, you go for it. We have to put a stop to rude people 😉
I loved reading this because I am a lot like this too. Sometimes I will really want a blender drink (milkshake, smoothie, etc) from a coffee bar, but I won’t ask for it because I always think they are too hard to make and I should maybe just pick something they’ll be able to make a little easier. But I’m getting over it! 🙂
I’m the same way. Well maybe not completely. I have no problem being a bitch when the person is mean to me first. I just don’t have a high tolerance for mean people.
Oh man – I used to be exactly like this! Then, one December I was with my sister at Home Depot. We looked EVERYWHERE for someone to help us, we asked a clerk and she said she would send someone to our aisle and still no help. My sister found one of the phones they use to page people, picked it up and said (to the entire store) “I have been waiting in the lighting department for someone to help me for more than 15 minutes. If someone doesn’t show up in the next 5 minutes I will take my business to Lowes”. Needless to say, there was someone there in about 10 seconds!
I was slightly embarrased but it worked. I decided that my New Year’s Resolution would be to say what I think and stop pussyfooting around. It was hard at first but so completely liberating! Good luck!
B hates it when we go out to eat and I send something back. Um hello!? Did you seriously think that I was going to pay for a meal that I am not going to actually enjoy? But before I learned to speak up about my food I did something else, sucked it up, put it in the doggie bag and then went home and emailed the restaurant complaining about the service. It’s not my job to speak up when I’m in a restaurant but it IS their job to serve me food correctly.
Good luck with your speaking up ass kickin’ ways 🙂
I’m pretty mean and don’t back down when it comes to things like this but I still fear the sneezer. I’m always overly nice no matter what, when it comes to the people who touch my food.