You know how there are 5 stages of grief. Yeah, well apparently there are also 5 stages of Vacation Envy.
More specifically: “He has gone golfing with 7 other dudes to sunny Florida and left me with two kids, the pets, in the middle of a wicked Canadian blizzard and I am jealous as hell Vacation Envy.”
Stage 1: Denial
Oh No He did NOT plan another “working” vacation and leave me behind to fend for myself. If you recall, I have given up on the women’s lib stuff for a bit. I am perfectly prepared to be looked after for a while.
Stage 2: Anger
How in the hell does he think this qualifies as WORK?? 8 days, 7 rounds of golf, 1 Anaheim Ducks Hockey Game, copious amounts of booze…oh yes three hours at the International Golf Show. Is this work?
Stage 3: Bargaining
Fine. You go ahead. Go on your “work” vacay. But first, I need you to come grocery shopping with me, fix the toilet, bring some wood in and stack it near the fireplace, rub my back, pledge your undying love…you get the idea.
Stage 4: Depression
I don’t do enough for me. He’s gone. He’s getting a tan and going to come home lookin all hot, I’m pasty. Bring on the chocolate. No need to shave my legs today.
Stage 5: Acceptance
Might as well make the most of it. Sushi for 1. Girly movies complete with sobbing. I have a king size bed to myself! Rejoice that my bathroom and kitchen counters stay clean? Paint my toes electric blue and no need to share the popcorn.
All this and when he gets home, I can play the “You left me all alone” guilt card for at least a week.
In a marriage more then 13 years old…this is priceless.
All is (un)fair in love and business travel. My wife travels for work more than me. Seems like her agenda is dinner, followed by visit with friends or family, followed by dinner…lol
My husband same thing. I wonder how golfing is working… still trying to figure that one out.. and an Angel game, Duck game… our husbands must work together..lol
Love to you
kelly
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hmmm…I’d have to think about that…good or not so good.
Mine hasn’t traveled to those nice warm places lately. Must be the economy.
My husband never goes anywhere. I’d probably be ok if he went on a week’s vacation, er, business trip.
I’m pretty sure the guilt card can be played for 2 weeks.
Hang in there! Hopefully the store will stop and then you’ll be able to venture out some.
EXCELLENT!!!!! You jsut posted what we all think and feel on this subject!!!!!
Dude, cover his nine-iron with Vaseline and spray his putter with mace…yes I mean the golf clubs…
And next time he goes to Florida come with kids in tow to visit me…we’ll party it up, Alaskan/Canadian style, eh?
I am guilty of leaving Cute Hubby a couple of times a year to spend 10 days in Florida or cruise to the Bahamas. Why don’t you plan a little va-ca of your own?
I love the acceptance part…I would just stick with that!
You are right on! Every stage is perfect, I know, I have been there…done that!
Enjoy your sushi and girly movies!
Men always have an angle, don’t they? Interesting how the two genders view the same thing differently.
Ohh. I definitely do the bargaining thing. I think you need to go get yourself a spray tan and a pedicure!
My husband has always travelled for “work”. When we were childless I really enjoyed the time to myself. Then when the kids were little it was torture and I felt much like you do. Now that the girls are in their late teens, it’s kind of nice again. And sometimes I even get to go along on these trips. I’m planning on doing more of that the kids get even older. Hang in there. It will get better. Before you know it, you will be travelling with him to sunny spots in the middle of winter.
You definitely need to work it both before and after!