It’s Monday morning and I feel …sad. Maybe a little angsty? But mostly …sad. Why? It’s because of my kids. Certainly not because they did anything wrong, on the contrary, it’s because they’ve done everything right. You spend 18 years raising your babies and then you have to do the impossible. You have to let them go. It’s the natural order – but let’s tell the truth for once shall we? It’s all kinds of hard. I love my girls with all of my heart and I miss them. I know they are doing well off at University, carving their own paths, chasing their dreams and all that, but it still pisses me off that this hurts so much. Yes, it hurts, every damn day. I know it will get easier, but today, it sucks. So instead of being all blue about this normal “empty nest crap” I will just list, in no particular order, a variety of things that I’m finding particularly irritating today. Yes, I’ve decided to rant so I don’t cry.
Here’s what’s bothering me a little too much today:
- My wardrobe: I hate all my clothes in my closet. How is my closet so full and yet I have nothing to wear?
- Spiders. Spiders do not belong in the house and certainly NOT in the shower.
- Glasses that don’t come clean in the dishwasher even after you leave them in there 3 times. Not that I’ve ever done that.
- Chronic Halitosis. GO to the dentist, get some gum, brush your teeth? It’s not that hard.
- Black dog hair on the clean hardwood floor. It never ends.
- Sticky stuff found when you place your hands on the handle of a grocery cart.
- The smell of gas that can never be washed off your hands no matter how hard you try.
- ”Estimates” to fix your furnace that run in to the hundreds of dollars.
- People who lie.
- Fake people. I’m over it. I’m over them.
- The end of summer…that brings the gloom, the blues and the cold…..and means my girls have to go back to school. Why can’t summer be just a little longer or University students have PA days?
Sigh, do you have something you need to get off your chest? Rant away. And if you need a hug, I’ve got one of those for you too.
Mwah.
I can definitely relate!
We all feel sad at one time or another and then something lovely happens and we are happy.
We all have bad days and I remember when my girls left the nest, hard but required for them to be their best.
I think it’s the time of year that things seem a little Blah…days are visibly shorter and cooler. Time to transition into warmer and darker clothing which is depressing in and of itself. Structure is back with fall so the carefree days of summer are no more. Back to the gym on a regular bases, which means not as much ice-cream..lol. Fake people, well I’ve been way done with those a long time ago. As for those spiders, they should never, ever, not ever be in the house. That being said, I think it’s time, with Thanksgiving and Christmas just around the corner, that we sit down and take the time to count our many blessings. But a good rant is needed sometime!!!
With 4 of my 5 “children” now living away from home, and having been a SAHM for 12 years, long before the social media thing, I find myself lonely and longing for CHAOS! I would like to add to your list of things bothering me today, football commentators!! 🙂
The not-so-clean glasses in the dishwasher wash after wash drives me insane! Every week we all have stuff to rant & cry about. This week for me was my daughter arguing with me when she gets in her moods.
So frustrating when those glasses continue to come out dirty!
Sending you and your DD peaceful vibes 🙂
Loved this post, it’s definitely tough when the kids leave home whether it’s for further studies, to take a job elsewhere or simple to have their own place. It definitely is a lonely time and sure you get used to it more and more still it’s not what you would choose if you had a choice. I remember the days when kids lived in the same village/town and even when they got married they lived close by. That has all changed dramatically, I now have 4 of my 7 kids living in Europe in 2 different countries with 6 of my grandkids. Still it used to be my kids lived on 3 different continents so it has improved somewhat – though I did love going to Australia when it was winter here, lol.
Four of your seven live in Europe! Oh your poor heart. Hugs to you Mama! I do hope you all find occasion to get together once in a while. And can we all just take a moment to be thankful for FaceTime. 🙂
Empty nest syndrome is so exciting to have time to do things you didn’t have time for before, and to have time for self care, and have a bit of space. It sucks because we miss the brats, and it’s the end of an era, it will never be the same. You have more time to think about and miss them. More time to resist rushing in and interfering with their time to grown, learn, and be independent. It’s a pendulum of good and bad happy and sad. But you’re right it does get easier and better. Also I’m kinda loving having time to rekindle my relationship with my hubby, just the two of us after decades of family focus.
Ouf, you nailed it! It’s bittersweet. More time with my Hubby – already we are making plans to travel and are cooking together at least 3 times a week, but gosh we never stop worrying about those kids do we? 🙂
Feeling quite the same today. I loved your rant and agree there should be PD (parent days) for college/university. 😊
Sorry you’re having the same kind of day.
Now, how do we get those PD Days organized in University! 🙂
It’s definitely that time of year where everything seems to suck more. I hope you’re feeling much better soon. On the bright side, Halloween is coming up and we get lots of sugar.
I just adore how you found a quick bright side for me! I’ll be picking up some Halloween Candy the next time I’m out 🙂
On the flipside; having two daughters that have graduated high school and are on the right track in life heading to university is a HUGE blessing. I can imagine it’s a difficult transition, but you raised the girls right and they are doing well in life. That is something to be THANKFUL for!
Dog hair? A new puppy is (a terror lol) and a joy – and something to fill the empty house with some love!
The other annoyances? Yes, annoyances indeed but in the scheme of things – things sound pretty sunny 🙂
Oh bless you for being the Ying to my Yang today. I needed that! xo