Have you spent any time thinking about what your 40th birthday will mean to you? Are you already past 40 and full of wonderful wisdom you can share? I’m thinking about that dreaded decade of my 40’s more then I care to admit lately. Now wait a second. I still have almost an entire year before the big four oh, the problem is the remarkable number of “Surprise” parities, 40th birthday parties, and cocktail parties I have been attending as of late.
I have concluded that 40th birthday parties are kind of like funerals. Seriously! Seems to me the 40th party is a huge reflection of the birthday guy or gal….it gives us a glimpse into what there very last get together might look like too.
That great big surprise party that I went to back in February. That girl had every person she had ever met show up at that thing. It was sickly sweet, short and to the point. Just like her. Got me thinking. Wouldn’t her funeral be the EXACT same way? That girl would pack the house.
The outdoor bon fire party starring the reformed partier that went until the wee hours. He is the guy who NEVER misses a GOOD paaarrttyy. Fer sure his funeral would be a rowdy celebration of his life, followed up by a massive wake and cheers all around.
The party that I threw this weekend for a girlfriends 40th. It was politely attended by her nearest and dearest friends, and all of their kids. There were some good laughs, fabulous food, great wine. Yep. Her funeral would be the same way. Civil, nice, polite.
Well folks, I’m not going out like this. On my 40th birthday I am leaving this country on a plane. I will be somewhere disgustingly romantic that helps me stroke something off my bucket list. Think Paris, or the Grand Caymen Islands. I’m not sharing my 40th birthday with anyone but my Hubby and maybe my kids, cause apparently I am all kinds of selfish like that. Does this mean no one will come to my funeral? That the funeral parlour will be empty. Just me and my laptop?
Crap.
Do you think they have twitter in heaven? Well, at least I’ll be smiling until the day I find out!
So tell me, how do you see your 40th birthday?
Mwah
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Ash says
i see myself celebrating it with my husband and son or maybe another baby when i turn 40 (10 yrs away!) and would love to have my parents, sisters & fam and bro & fam with me but that will be a bit tricky as eldest lives in texas, second elder lives in london, third elder lives in doha and bro in nepal…..i can still wish tho, right? 😉 don’t want to think about my funeral…yet but i hope it will be before anyone’s whom i dearly love. :((
~ash’s mum
Mrs EyeCanSee says
I don’t blame you! Who wants to spend their birthday surrounded by black and the grim reaper! I think a vacation with just the family sounds perfect!
Secret Mom Thoughts says
I want only my close family there for my 4oth too. Tropical island sounds great too.
liz says
OK, the thought of “packing the house” at a funeral parlor is both hysterical and something I’ve never thought about before! 🙂
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And I love your 40th birthday!
Denise says
40th and funerals. Yes–but how you spun it, not because 40 is death-like. I’m two years away and loving the fantastical thoughts I’m having planning my soiree.
Twitter in heaven? Yup. I think so.
Cool Gal says
I had my 40th a couple years ago. Didn’t have/want a party. The mister didn’t plan a thing. In fact, he went out and got Jimmy John’s for dinner. LOL!
He also gave me a gift certificate for Botox and Juvederm which made me bawl like a baby because I thought he was trying to tell me something. Hahahaha….
If I could do it again, I would leave on a jet plane, too.
Sure hope my funeral isn’t anything like my 40th, but I think you might be on to something. I’m not much for attention or crowds.
Cute post.
By the way, the Cayman Islands are fabulous!
Eclipsed says
As long as that cake is at my 40th birthday party I’ll be happy. I remember throwing my mom her 40th birthday when I was a kid and now in just a decade or so, I’ll be there myself. Crazy how time creeps up on you.
But if I had to plan it now, I’d say that I’d want it ultra posh. Maybe everyone in white like a P-Diddy party. With fabulous cocktails and finger food.
kim says
well i would love to go to paris or rome for my 40th…but that is highly unlikely. I only have parties for my kids. i haven’t had any adult birthday parties for me or dh.
Shana says
I just turned 44 at the end of June. My 44th was way better than my 40 as it was spent with my Guy and my daughter just hanging around.
As to my funeral: I hope it is attended by people who actually cared about me in life, no matter how many there are!!
My 40th birthday wasn’t too great as I spent that with my THEN boyfriend who turned out to be a real jerk.
I try not to think about age at all!!
Campinggirl says
My husband turned 40 this year and didn’t want a party or any recognition… he is like that for every birthday. So for his 40 minus 1 I took him to Vegas… tricky I know 🙂
My 40th is next year and I really want to go away for it… maybe Spain.
misszippy says
I have to admit, I really had a hard time turning 40 and that lasted for about a year. Now I’m ok with it all (I should hope so at 44!). But enjoy the day and know that it’s a great decade!
BigSis says
I have a list of things I want to do before I turn 40. None of them seem to be happening though. I shudder to think of my funeral. I’m sure it would be chaotic, just like my life 🙂
Brian Miller says
ha. i want my funeral to be a raucous affair…i got a few (3) year to 40…i dont know how i feel about it…hopefully i am still loving life and kicking as opposed to laid out in a box…
Ace says
Wow. I wish I had thought of that. I’ll be 46 next month and honestly? I don’t even remember what I did for my 40th. Probably nothing much. My husband and kids are doing well if they remember my birthday, let alone celebrate it.