Do you remember the exact moment you were told you had to get braces? I do. I was a 15 year old string bean of a girl, had just started a brand new high school in a brand new city and I was…devastated. I sat in my bedroom and cried in my Father’s arms until I thought I might throw up; sure my life was over. I feared rejection, isolation and I just knew I was going to be the ugliest girl in the world.
Fast forward almost 30 years and I’m living it all over again. The drama, the fear and yes the tears that come with the announcement that braces are required.
I have two beautiful girls ages 13 and 15, each with their own stories and each with their own dental drama. My 13 year old SweetGirl wants nothing more than to slap some braces on her pretty face and get on with this dental work. She wants braces SO badly, she offered to pay for them herself? My 15 year old BlueEyed girl wants nothing to do with the metal. Nothing! So what do you think happens when we enter the orthodontist office for our consultation? One skipping, the other being dragged by her ear? The complete opposite of what should have. Too soon for SweetGirl to get braces, her teeth need more time to do what they are going to do. And BlueEyes? Signed her up. End result, crying all around, including Mom (when the kids couldn’t see) Some sort of post traumatic stress disorder?
When your kids hurt, you hurt. You are only as happy as your unhappiest child. So how do I fix this? How do I make it better for little people in my life? I can’t, but I can lessen the blow. Teach patience. and to look at the big picture. One foot in front of the other, one step at a time and it’s all worth it in the end. Sometimes life feels unfair and hard, but it’s just a bump in the road.
We’ll get through this little bit of braces drama with love, support some big bills and praise for the brilliant Dentist who created Invisalign. We’ll get through it knowing it’s only braces and the big picture is life as a teenager can suck, but when your Mama’s “gets it” it helps….a little. I hope? Wish me luck.