On Being Lonely, Blogging and Love.

Five years. Do you remember where you were five years ago?  What you were doing?  What your plans and dreams were?  Me?  I was the Mama of two girls, ages eight and ten, and they were my entire world.  My dreams?  I wasn’t able to dream much beyond the next vacation.  I was feeling….stuck. 

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One very cold night in February I found myself sitting alone on the couch, reflecting.  I had just turned down a very sweet job offer and I had no one to talk to.  Those happy little girls of mine were tucked into their beds, my Hubby was off on a golf trip, and I was alone.  What had I done?  I had given up a career I loved to stay home with my babies.  I know for them and for me it was the right choice, but   “Career Girl” gone “Stay At Home Mom”? Gulp.  Those words stuck in my throat.  Not because I wasn’t proud of my decisions, not because I was afraid I’d made the wrong choices, because I needed something else.  Dare I say I was lonely?

I started to write.  I wrote my heart out!  Then, I started a blog.  A place where I could vent, emote, and connect with other Mama’s.  I started How To Survive Life In The Suburbs.  I threw my heart and soul into this blog, and it saved me.  Each article I wrote felt right, each “like” and comment I received gave me a validation I didn’t know I needed.  More then that, each e-mail from other Mama’s out there thanking me for speaking the truth, laughing and crying with me, made me smile.  We were all in this crazy world together; laughing and living our lives as best we could.  We were surviving, we were thriving, and it was going to be okay.  

This month I celebrate my 5th Blogging Anniversary and I am a little bit proud. 

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I started out in this “space” truly writing only for me.  I wrote anonymously and loved every second of it.  It was easy to pour my heart out when there was no fear of neighbours, friends or family judging me for my innermost feelings and thoughts.  The only problem, it was not possible to take these connections further until I let a little bit more of my real self though.  So under the advice of a few professionals who wanted to work with the “real me” and some new on-line friends who said “Go for it girl!”,  I plastered my face up on my blog and let the whole world in.  This change in direction made my road through this blogging life both more intimidating and more exciting.  I’m grateful for every incredible experience that has been thrown in my lap and even more thankful for the one’s I worked my butt off to earn.  Yes, I am grateful to a blog.  Blogging has changed my life.

These past five years, I’ve made real true friends and maybe even some frenemies.  I’ve shed some tears, and been blessed with some incredible adventures.  I’ve had dreams come true, and even been allowed to dream new dreams. 

Today, I want to say thank you.  Thank you to the readers who have been with me for five years!  Thank you to those who joined me somewhere along the way, and to my newest readers, thank you and welcome!  I need you to know that each click, like and comment you leave on my little piece of the cyber world is appreciated!Five1

To try and thank you for your love, your comments and giving me a little bit of your time each day I’ve lined up a few giveaways!  Yes!  For the next few weeks I’m throwing my very own FIVE YEAR CELEBRATION!  Woot!  During this celebration I will be hosting a few giveaways of some of my favourite things.  Starting tomorrow I will present to you the tried and the true, the brand new to me, and maybe even the greatest of escapes from these suburbs!  Thanks for sticking with me in my little corner of the suburbs,  I can’t wait to see what happens next!  XOXO



Comments

  1. congrats on 5 years….
    i started because i was told i should but when i lost my job it became a life line for me….connecting to others…making friends…it def turned into something well beyond what i thought it would be

    • It is amazing to me how many people started blogging for one reason, to vent, to emote? Then had our blogs turn into so much more. So glad yours turned into so much beyond what you ever thought possible too!

  2. Congratulations, my sweet friend!! I’m proud to say I’ve been here since the beginning. =)

    • A huge thank you for sticking with me for all these years!! Thanks for letting me follow along with you too!

  3. Happy to be one of your newer readers!! Congrats to you on your anniversary!

  4. Happy Anniversary! I will hit my 5 year mark in October and when I think about the life of its own that my little blog has taken on over the course of those years, it blows my mind!

    • The time will fly for you between now and October!! Isn’t amazing how our blogs become our voice 🙂 Congrats to you too!

  5. Wishing you a very happy blogiversary! So blessed to have met you 🙂

    • Thanks for the well wishes! So blessed to have met you…through a blog?! Who could have ever guessed!!

  6. Congrats on your 5 yrs blogging! 🙂 I loved the story about how you were inspired to begin writing your blog. Here’s to the next 5 years!

    • Thanks Karen!! I do think I will still be blogging 5 years because I almost can’t imagine my life without it!

  7. Congratulations on 5 years! I’m so glad to have meet you and love reading your blog…….

    • The feeling is quite mutual! So thrilled to had the opportunity to read you!! Thanks for the blog love!

  8. Congratulations! That is truly a momentous anniversary in this transient world of blogging.

    • Thank you so much!! I’m thrilled to still be here 5 years in and can’t wait to see what the future holds!

  9. Happy Anniversary!!

  10. HAPPY ANNIVERSARY! Congrats on your 5th year of blogging! 🙂

    As a regular reader of your blog, I can say I have enjoyed the time I have spent reading your posts on here and on FB – they have both made me laugh (The Passive Aggressive letters) and cry (The recent army video on FB that had tears streaming down my face)…. I love seeing the photos of the experiences and adventures you and your family have…

    I can honestly say I know you love your work and value your readers… that is very special.

    Thank you for opening your heart and home to us readers.. It is great appreciated! ♥

    • Soozle! Your comment brought tears to my eyes! Thank you so very much, you have no idea how much your words mean to me! Thanks for every time you click through and every comment you leave! All the best! Stephanie

  11. Happy 5 year old birthday!!!!!! I almost said happy 5-0 but realized that would be um me.

  12. Jan Dempsey says:

    Happy 5th anniversary & looking forward to following you for many many years !

  13. congratulations on five years and some really beautiful writing!

  14. Congratulations girlfriend. I’m coming up on six years in this crazy blogging world. I don’t even know where that went but I do know that I’m most grateful for the amazing people I’ve met along the way….like you 🙂

    • Six years in blogging! We are dinosaurs! Congrats to you and I too am so grateful to have met you on this crazy journey in the blogging world! xo

  15. Congratulations on 5 years of blogging – you ought to be very proud of what you have accomplished! It was great meeting you and your daughters last year – hopefully we will cross paths again in 2014!!

    • I am so thrilled to have met you and your daughter last year and hope our paths cross somewhere sunny in the near future! Thank you for the kind words!

  16. Happy 5 years hon! man I can still relate to those lonley days. Kids are tucked in bed, hubs is away on a business trip to England. and me? well, I’m just here aren’t I? I definitely got lost along the way! lol sigh….
    You’ve created a wonderful space here on the blog, congrats on the 5 and I wish you many more adventures for the next 5!

    • Oh you really do know where I started from, it sounds like you are in the thick of it right now! I hope your beautiful blog also helps you on some of those quiet days. It is too easy to get lost along the way, to just be the Mommy and nothing more. I really do “get” it. Hugs!
      Thanks for your kind words and I hope we both have some fun and fabulous adventures in the next few years! Sooner then later!

  17. Congratulations on your 5th blogging anniversary! I know how it feels when you have to make a life changing decision (I did it twice 😉 ), but I’m glad that you didn’t choose the “career path”. I tremendously enjoy your blog! Thank you!

  18. Nice choice. Congratulations and keep up the fabulous blog. 🙂

  19. Happy 5th blogging anniversary, Stephanie!

  20. Congrats Steph. I love your words…they speak the truth!!

  21. Congratulations on your anniversary! I love your blog! It’s always a comfortable and wonderful place to visit! ♥

  22. What a sweet post for a wonderful milestone! I am so very blessed to call you my friend (IRL) and thrilled with the career YOU have made by showing the world what I already knew; you are beautiful inside and out Steph. I am so SO proud of you! Congrats!!!!! XO

    • Oh Jacki!! Your sweet comment brought tears to my eyes! Thank you so much for your support both IRL and in this space! It means the world to me!

  23. Congrats on your five year anniversary. Cheers to five more!

  24. Happy Bloggoversary!

  25. Congrats and well done!

  26. Congratulations on 5 years! I’ve shown your blog to many friends who loved reading your thoughts, and you always make my day just a little brighter! So glad you found this way to express yourself and brighten the world a little with your happy energy 🙂

    • Bridget! You are so sweet! Thank you for your kind words and for showing my blog to your friends, I appreciate both! Wishing you all the best! Steph

  27. Anne Taylor says:

    Congratulations on your 5th year blogiversary! How exciting!

  28. Atta girl! Congrats and happy to share the blogosphere with you. I too started b.c I was lonely.

    • I’m amazed to see how many of us started out blogging because we needed “something”, not necessarily sure what that is, but something. So blessed to have met you in this crazy world of blogging!

  29. Judy Cowan says:

    Happy 5th Blogiversary!!

  30. Congrats on your 5 year anniversary my dear!

  31. loucheryl says:

    Loved this post! Where was I 5 years ago? I was working full time in a law firm as a legal assistant to an awesome boss and I was pregnant with my first son. Now I’m a SAHM of 2 boys (one just 6 months old) and every day I think about what I would be doing at work if I wasn’t at home with my boys. I do love my boys but I really miss my freedom before I had them. I’ve often thought about starting my own blog, like you, just to vent my frustrations out sometimes. Hmmm…..

    • Can I just say one thing…do it!! Okay, maybe not right away with a 6 month old, but think about it. There is something so very loving and rewarding about being able to jump on line and find “your people”. I know where you are now, I know how some days are beautiful and some days are tear inducing!! Hope today is a beautiful day and thank you so much for always supporting my blog!

  32. A very happy anniversary to you, well done.

  33. Happy Fiversary(TM)

  34. Congrats on your 5 years! Good luck on having another highly enjoyable 5 years and more!

  35. Lynda Cook says:

    Congrats on your 5yrs!!! I love reading your blog and come back everyday to see what’s new, keep up the great stories and once again congrats!!!

    • Oh my goodness, thank you so much!! For your sweet words and for checking in every day to see what’s new. I truly appreciate it!

  36. Congratulations – a wonderful journey. I’m glad to have met you along the way!

  37. jessica s says:

    wow 5 years! big congrats to you!

  38. Melinda L. says:

    Congrats on 5 years!!! Things are so different 5 years ago. I was looking at a blog/journal that I hadn’t wrote on for 5 years and reading what I had written brought back a lot of memories. May you have many more years of blogging to come 🙂

    • It is amazing how much can change in 5 years. Sometimes it’s great to reflect to see how far we have come and where we are going!! Thanks for the congrats and sweet wishes!

  39. Congrats on 5 years!

    • Thank you!!! Now of course I’m trying to figure out how many years I’ve been reading you!

  40. Congratulations on your 5 years blogaversary! 🙂 So glad that you found writing as an outlet, you are so good at it…love reading your words, but most of all love that I got to meet you and get to know you because of it! xoxo

    • Oh thank you Rossana! Who knew that starting a blog would bring me real life friends! Blessed to have met you!

  41. Happy Blogiversary.

  42. Darlene Schuller says:

    Happy Bloggaversary!!! Looking forward to many more <3

  43. kristen visser says:

    Happy Anniversary/Bloggaversary 🙂

  44. Congrats on 5 years of blogging! I enjoy reading your posts.

  45. Elizabeth Friesen says:

    Congratulations! 5 years is a long time in the blogosphere! So many start with great flourish and fanfare and can’t even manage to make it to 5 months!!! 😀

    • Thank you so much Elizabeth!! And yes, I do know what you mean. I fell in love with some writers and followed them carefully, but sadly they didn’t last very long 🙁 Thanks for following me!

  46. Happy blogoversary….you’ve certainly found your voice.
    XO

  47. Victoria Ess says:

    Congrats on five years! I can’t believe it’s been so short, as you are so accomplished! It is wonderful that you are able to look back and feel positive about the decision you made, and I, along with many of your readers I’m sure, am happy you started blogging!

    • You are SO sweet!! Thank you for always stopping by with a kind word and for supporting this blog and space for so long!! It really does mean the world to me!

  48. jessica chan says:

    Congratulations on 5 years =)

  49. Congratulations – that is truly awesome!

  50. Jen Conlin says:

    Happy 5th Adore your page and laugh daily. Love the Recipes and contests too! Cheers to many more Years .

  51. Congrats on 5 years! It’s an amazing accomplishment!

  52. Congrats on five years!

  53. First, Congratulations on 5 years of blogging and to all of your success. You have many followers in such a short time. Second Congratulations for being such a great example to your children! You showed them about setting new goals, priorities and love.

  54. CONGRATULATIONS!!

  55. Congratulations!!! What an accomplishment!!!

  56. Brooklyn Dutson says:

    Congrats on 5 yrs. I have never heard a bloggers take on how they started very neat! and very neat to see it working for u and with kids! 🙂

  57. Congratulations! Your choice to blog has benefited many. Thank you.

  58. Congrats on 5 years! Blogging can be a great outlet 🙂

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