Good Mom’s Don’t Curse or Lose Their Cool? I’m Screwed.

There is an urban legend in the Suburbs.  Good Moms are perfect.   They never:

Lose their tempers.

Curse under their breath.  (or sometimes really loudly when they think no one is listening)

Tell their kids to SHUSH!

Cry for no reason.

Allow dessert before dinner.  or instead of dinner

Let their kids play hours of Mine Craft on a Sunday afternoon just because it was the easy thing to do.

Give up on matching socks and settle for “cleanish” socks.

Forget the golden rule of “Pick your battles” and spend the entire weekend picking every fricken battle you can think of.

Enforce bedtime like a drill sergeant, not because it’s good for them, but because it’s good for you. 

Put every single person on the earth before themselves. 

Good Moms don’t sleep. (I’ve got this one down…not because I’m getting my June Cleaver on but because I’ve got wicked insomnia)

Guess this means, I am not a good Mom; but I am a real one. 


I get tired, angry and sometimes feel a tad selfish.  I settle for clean clothes, not so much perfect outfits.  I live off coffee, which often results in the embarrassment of my girls as it leads to singing too loudly in the car with the windows rolled down, and dancing in the kitchen like a maniac.  I make my kids spend time with me when they don’t want to, and let them plug themselves in when I need a break.  I apologise when I need to, and hug my girls every chance I get.  I love those little people with all of my heart, and truly am trying to do my very best.  Sometimes, it’s hard.  Having a teenager in the house is making life challenging?  Exciting and fabulous, but raising this mini me is going to make the next few years…blog worthy.

The truth is my best may not look like everyone else’s best, and I am okay with that. 

For now I am just trying to get through the day….and be a real Mom.  One who loves fiercely, laughs easily and makes the most of every moment.  The years are suddenly flying by too quickly and I’m trying to savour every second.  Wish me luck.

Sending hugs to all the real Moms out there!  xo


  1. Loved this post! …. cause let’s face it I’m so far being a perfect mom

  2. Love this!
    Who is perfect?? Being good enough is good enough for me too!

  3. Ahhh… love this! You know, whenever I think about being perfect, I always think back to a little nugget of wisdom a co-worker once shared with me:

    “Don’t strive for perfection. There was only one perfect being in the history of time and they crucified him for it. Instead, strive for excellence.”

    I think you are an excellent mom 🙂

  4. Love this! And, I guess I am screwed too;-)

  5. I personally think you are pretty wonderful because you are not perfect.

    You’re real and that makes you inspirational.

    Truth be told, if your blog posts were bordering on Stepford wife material, I wouldn’t be following!

    Cheers to imperfection being OKAY 🙂

  6. Love it, I am a REAL Mom too! Yes we take missteps here and there, but it’s all about getting back on track and doing better each and every day. Spending more time, saying I love you more, being a great example to our kids. We may lose our cool sometimes, but they’ll forgive us.

  7. Who wants to be “that” mom…the not real one? The totally even more stressed out one?

    Perfect is overrated. Real is so much better.

  8. I think all those things make you a GREAT mom! It can’t always be about the kids. I’m a better mom when I get my “ME” time. And? I’m a firm believer moms need timeouts sometimes too. We’re human, not perfect!

  9. Amen!

  10. Just the other day I said I was going to hell in a pretty little hand basket for laughing so hard I cried while my daughter was singing me a song she wrote. Terrible, terrible, rotten mom…..but human. I told her I had tears in my eyes because it was just so beautiful but someday I’ll tell her why, because while I’m not perfect I am raising my kids to have a sense of humour about themselves and others 🙂

  11. Thanks for the reminder, because I totally curse… every day… far too much!

  12. Love this post! I am real too. Losing my temper, unable to sleep over caffeinated and occasional extremely silly as in shopping at Masonville hollering down the hall to my Tweens: anybody need a new bra? Bwahahaha!

  13. Yep, I am definitely not a “good” mom either!

    But you know what? I think the kids prefer the REAL mom. The one who loves them to pieces, screws up occasionally, and must ask for forgiveness every once in a while. If only, because that mom is the mom that is the one showing them what real life is all about.

  14. I don’t there’s such a thing as a perfect mom, just as there is no way for there to be a perfect human. You only do your best with your best intentions. 🙂
    I think your kids will always appreciate (even if they may not show it) all the reasons you are their “real” mom over any other kind of mom.

  15. Oh my gosh, your littlest one looks just like you! You are three beautiful women.

    I always said if someone says being a parent is easy, they aren’t doing it right!

  16. Anonymous says:

    Hi. Can I just say I am so glad to hear someone say they are not perfect?? Thank you.

  17. Oh boy. So. screwed. too! At least I have great company 🙂
    Love this!

  18. There are good days and bad days. Sometimes after my kids are in bed I think to myself – I didn’t do too bad today 🙂 They usually happen when I’m well rested and well fed, otherwise lookout!!

  19. I am with you! I am a real mom and loving every minute!

  20. Hmm, it sounds like I wouldn’t be a good suburbs mom as I believe I’ve done all those “bad” things. Heck, we’re human too, right?

  21. Great post! REAL moms are the best moms! 🙂

  22. Not sure what rule book you’ve been reading, but the psychological research suggests that it’s being a “good enough” mom that matters. Me? I curse loudly enough that the kids don’t even pay attention anymore.

  23. I don’t know… you seem pretty perfect to me 🙂

  24. Anonymous says:

    This is a great post. There is no such thing as the perfect mom-we just all have to love & support each other as moms doing our best!

  25. Love this post. Real moms are the Best moms!

  26. Thank you for your honesty as sometimes i feel like i mess up all the times with my kids! Although lets face it we moms are our own worst critics too!

  27. I enjoyed reading this post. I am not in a good mood today. I was…
    You made me smile’ thanks!
    BTW, as a real mom, when I curse, I do it in 2 languages though 🙂

  28. This makes me feel better, today I had to stop for wine (**had!**) and my almost 5 year old walks right up to my usual brand and declares loudly “here’s the one you like mommy”! And we were on our way to McDonalds no less… Not my best moment, but we try! Now I’m sitting patiently outside her ballet class 🙂

  29. Just be the best mom you can be. Just think, if you were the perfect mom – how difficult would it be for your kids to follow in your footsteps.

  30. This is the type of post every mom out there, especially new or expectant ones should read. It is so true. No parent is perfect, in fact its impossible to be perfect. We all set out during our first pregnancy to be the best of the best, do everything right, exclusively breast feed, only serve the healthiest meals, be patient, be fun 24/7 – the list goes on… but reality is, a happy mom leaves you with a happy family. And if that means enforcing bed time 2 hours early bc you need to relax with a glass of wine after a stressful day, so be it. 🙂

  31. Victoria Ess says:

    Great post — I’m sure your kids would rather have a real mom than a perfect mom, and are better adjusted for it.

  32. I don’t curse, but do every single other thing on the list.

    And I think you’re a cool mama.

  33. Great story… thanks for sharing!

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