Dear Stalker

So here is a post I never thought I would have to write. 

Guess what, this is my space.  A place where I come to chat about what happens behind the closed and competitive doors in the suburbs.  MY place to tell things like I really see it; bare my soul, and from time to time embarrass the heck out myself in the process.  I know I’m on the right track because big companies want to work with me and I get e-mails from across Canada and the United States from fabulous people thanking me for a morning giggle when they needed it most or just for letting them know they are not alone in this crazy mixed up world.  Plus, it’s cheaper than therapy.

So now to my problem. 

Dear Stalker,

Your interest in my blog is going to a scary place.  There is normal interest in me and my life for the intended reader and then there is you.   I know it has been discussed that you are to leave me, leave this space alone.  Clearly you are not respecting this.  Perhaps you think you are clever logging in from different computers, picking different times of the day or checking my twitter feed and blog from your mobile devices, but guess what?  I can still tell every single time you look.  Every. Time.  You may think you are computer savvy but I am smarter.  Thanks to all things IP address and all the stats that I have had to learn I know when you check, and where you check from.   Hmmm Scary right??  It is time for you to stop.

In short, move on, get a life and mind your own business.  You must have better things to do. 


Enough Already.

I’m not losing anymore sleep over this.


  1. Good for you! Some people don’t realize they do leave “breadcrumbs”no matter how hard they try to clean up after themselves!They can be found!

  2. Sounds a bit scary and unnerving.

  3. ugh, that sucks…..i went through the same a few years ago…actually got the police to check into it for me as well….i hope whoever it is gets the message…

  4. Oh I do hope they get the message and “bugger off” I am glad you know where it comes.It is very smart to monitor in this day in age. Everyone should I know I do to. Good luck I hope they got the message.. Scary people out there. B

  5. Seriously? What is wrong with people? People are scary and sick! I’m sorry you’re having to deal with such nonsense. Hopefully whoever it is gets the picture.

  6. I just dealt with the same problem. I reverted all of my old posts back to draft so that my stalker couldn’t go back and soak up everything I had ever written. Not just that, I also learned that authorities can trace a stalker right down to their address.

  7. Okay, it’s MIND BOGGLING to me that people don’t understand that when you own a website, you also have access to the back-end analytics. In my case, I can narrow down the IP address AND location of the person visiting my blog to 99% certainty, and I would be happy to send you a copy of the program if you need to deep-dive into this cray stalker further.

    EVERY time someone visits a blog, there is a footprint. In the past I’ve printed out reports ready to send to the authorities. Wouldn’t it be funny to receive a visit from the police because you can’t play nice online?

    I sincerely hope that your stalker decides to leave you alone and use his/her online time productively. In the meantime, hugs to you!

  8. Thanks for the support Rosanna.

  9. I too find it hilarious that people think that they can remain anon online. Website owners can see all!! Right down to where you live. Silly naive stalkers!!!

  10. is a bit unnerving because to be quite honest I don’t feel I have done anything to deserve so much negative attention. I hope this puts this *person on notice and this is the end of it.

  11. Brian, Buttons and C! Thanks so much for your suppport! More proof that there are really good people out there!

  12. Otin! I am so sorry to hear you have had to deal with a similiar situation. Hope everything is okay now. Thanks for your support.

  13. Lena, Thank you. Yes, this *person clearly is in over their head and is simply wasting his/her time bothering me. I hope this is the end of their obsession with me and that they MOVE on. I don’t want to have to take further action.

  14. Hi Tammi
    Yes naive sums it up. Let’s hope my stalker gets themselves a good education today!

  15. One of the things that surprises kids most when a local officer visits classes to talk about the dangers of the Internet and cyber bullying is that they can easily track down who is on the other side of the computer. Internet service providers are required to release personal information as part of an investigation. I hope it doesn’t have to get to that point but inform the authorities right away if it gets too crazy.

  16. Lena
    Thank you so much for your offer! I hope it doesn’t come to that but if this person does not take a huge step bacck I will reach out to you! Thanks so much.

  17. Diana
    You are so right! Everything you put on the internet is fair game and what is funny is you don’t have to leave a comment to leave a trail!!

    Thanks for the support!

  18. Ugh – I’m sorry you’re dealing w/this. That sucks. I hope the stalker goes away now and realizes that time is not worth wasting!! They can find something productive to do!

  19. I had a couple of old high school friends BUGGING me for reunion stuff. I politely told them, over the YEARS, to buzz off. I’d moved on. High school was over in case they didn’t get the memo.

    One of these people works at the Dept of Justice and her IP kept coming up DOJ, D.C. The other person emailed me one day to say they were done with me (YAY!) and didn’t even know what I was up to anymore.

    I replied, “Then tell Jill to stop reading my blog every day.”

    The message traveled fast. She stopped.

  20. Ugh! I hate when people do this stuff! I mean really, it’s 2012. We can figure out who it is!

  21. What the heck? Seriously, I never understand people like that.

  22. That’s just so crazy! Never had that problem! The only bad thing for me was an anonymous commenter that said something not very nice! Hope this gets your message through!

  23. I am having the SAME problem right now. Guess we should be flattered they find us stalk worthy even if it annoys the crap out of us.

  24. Yikes! I am sorry hon! I had a woman from my work not playing nice a couple of years ago and it SUCKED. I hope all ends well- protect yourself!

  25. I had a small situation similar to this a year ago. Scary and weird.
    Thinking of you my friend.

  26. I have a similar situation but it isn’t a blog stalker…its a facebook stalker. Its scary, weird, and so not amusing. Be safe. Unfortunately, stalkers can often time go overboard.

  27. Why are people so psycho?! Hope your stalker takes a hike real soon!

  28. Wow, sorry you have to deal with this Stephanie. I hold he disappears.

    The crime topics I write about attract many strange emails as well–fortunately for me being an old and bald guy they usually just include lots of curse words about me and my family. Nothing I can’t handle.

  29. Thanks Andrea! I hope so too!

    @Suzy!! LOL That will teach her. Hope my letter is just as effective!

    OH yes @CrazyShenanigans!!! I know where my problem is and what they are doing!! Hoping after this letter this will be the end of it. I shall leave the rest to karma.

  30. Oh @MrsTuna I know! I am so over this!

    @nancygrace Thanks so much!

    @Kat That is awful! Hope the drama is finally over for both of us.

  31. @DomesticallyChallenged @Suz and @Dee Thanks so much for your kind word of support! Both through these comments and the lovely e-mails. You have no idea how much they mean!

  32. Thanks so much Lee-Ann!

  33. @SlamDunk Oh I am so sorry you have had to deal with some ugly stuff too!
    Thanks for your kind words, I truly appreciate it. As they say…this too shall pass!

  34. Steph, oh Steph. You know that I totally totally understand. I’m resurfacing to say good for you for putting the crazy on notice. Hugs. And not in the stalkerish kind of way. 😉

  35. Just wow Steph. nothing to add but a little love in your corner. hugs.

  36. So is this someone you know? Scary at any rate.

  37. Oh my! I am so sorry to hear someone is giving you a hard time!!

    I hope the person takes the hint and buggers off quickly!

    Know though that your ‘normal’ readers have your back! 🙂

  38. Sorry about this!!

  39. I’m so sorry you are going through this, haven’t been around as much as I used to.

  40. Wow, this is unbeleivable. You are not safe anywhere.

  41. No lack of creepy people anywhere in the world. Hope it is all sorted out now.

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