Seriously? Every Night?

I love him.  He is my everything. (okay, so almost my everything, I have kids and issues with chocolate, popcorn and coffee) The point is we have been together forever and he is the only man for me.  We laugh and play together.  Have the occasional tug of war.  Normal and healthy.  We parent well together, we are a well oiled machine.

My issue today, sometimes, just sometimes….would it be okay if we just cuddled?  Seriously, I am not that hot.  Holding each other with no strings would be so fine. 

I brought this up.  We tried my approach for a couple of days.  He makes NO move and I feel all kinds of rejected??

Clearly I am nothing but a devil in Suburban Mama clothing.

I admit it. 

It’s true what they say. 

You really can’t win with a woman. 

Just don’t tell him I said so.



Comments

  1. I love cuddling too! You’re not alone!

    BTW, you are all kinds of hot!

    CBG
    canadianbloggergirl.blogspot.com

  2. Oh, do you know, one of my old boyfriends and I made that age-old New Years Resolution of ”doing the deed” every night for a year. We lasted eight days. How pathetic is that?!?

    I totally hear you on the cuddles; isn’t cuddling just the best?

  3. We have the same issue in this house. He’ll say he’s “cuddling,” but somehow it always leads to the boobs and the crotch. I don’t get it.

    Your feelings are perfectly normal. Women like the affection. Men, well, you know what they like.

    Hang in there.

    I was thinking about you this morning when I awoke to below zero temps. Is it cold where you live?

  4. hahah I hear you loud and clear!!

  5. Very true! He could at least act like he WANTS to try. 🙂

  6. Honestly……do we even stand a chance of getting anything right!

  7. You just blew my world. I was really hoping this experiment would be a success! I can see now that I shouldn’t even try. 🙂

  8. I know where you are coming from, sometimes it feels like its all or nothing!
    We have a system of 1, 2 or 3. It goes like this… A 1 movement kiss means its just a show of affection, just cuddle time, hello or goodbye in a rush etc. 2 movement kiss means I want some longer last affection, stay a litte longer, I could be pursauded:P and then theres the 3 movement kiss, it means your in. It’s an easy way to test the waters without really rejected or not wanted:) Works for us.

  9. haha! I love this! I’m not sure what else to say…!

  10. You are so funny! But, I totally see your side here. I know you’ve heard the phrase, ‘be careful what you ask for – you just may get it.’

    I could use a guy like your hubby, though. Every night still wouldn’t be enough. 😉

  11. I have this problem on the opposite end. My guy is a cuddler and a touchy feely guy. Me? I like my space and all that cuddling well…it invades my space. I don’t love him any less. So cut the man some slack. Some people just really don’t like all that cuddly stuff. If it continues to be a problem maybe we can switch guys. You take my cuddle bear and I’ll take your non-cuddler 🙂

  12. You want what you want when you want it. Or when you don’t.

  13. Men…you can’t get them to see a woman’s point of view! What’s wrong with them???

  14. Isn’t that always the case! Cuddling for us usually always leads to sex. It kind of goes hand in hand.

  15. Oh do I hear you! I’ve been married forever and he still could go at it every single night…really, what’s wrong with just cuddling?

  16. maybe a blend of both…smiles.

  17. I miss cuddling. Sadly the pain in my arm makes that hard to get comfortable in a cuddle position with my hubby most of the time.

  18. Thank you for “bringing this up”, hehe. It’s refreshing to hear another woman complain about too much sex. It took forever to train my guy to cuddle.

  19. This is hilarious! Thank you for being so honest! Your not alone in feeling that way!

  20. really can relate to you. that’s why men are different from women. i thought I’m alone to this feeling…

  21. My hubbs puts a row of pillows between us b/c he says I kick him in his sleep so that would be a “no” in the cuddling department in our household!

    I feel you girl!

  22. Ha ha ha ha ha!! I hear ya girl. If hubby isn’t grabbing, caressing, rubbing, pinching my bootie then I’m not getting any touches. ugh!! Just a hug or a snuggle w/o the expectation of some action would be nice.

  23. Haha I’ve felt the same way many times. We women are complicated.

  24. That’s hilarious! I guess if my husband didn’t at least try to cop a feel, I would feel the same way.

  25. HAhahaha!! This post cracked me up because I am the SAME way!!

  26. you’re right, they just can’t win with us! go girl:-)

  27. We are an odd breed arent we?!

  28. carol@The Design Pages says:

    I’ve been away from blogland for a while and it’s my first time reading in a while. I am sooo glad to see you’re still every bit as funny and sassy as you were when I left.
    Carol

  29. i SO feel ya…
    without trying to get TOO PERSONAL..
    other day i wanted “icecream”… lol
    hubs said his back hurt…
    and i was all… WHAAAA-AAAAAAAT!!!!

    but… helloooo… don’t WE (or at least i) do that to them all the time!!!

  30. Oh can so relate!! Then I find myself not wanting to cuddle as well it rarely is just cuddling so it’s all or nothing and no one likes that.

  31. Cuddling can be nice.. I hope he comes around.. Have a great day.. THanks for your kind words..

  32. I am sure my husband would agree with you on this “He can’t win!”

  33. Men are allergic to cuddling…

  34. I LOVE IT!!
    Much relation, many laughs!! Thank you for sharing!! 🙂

  35. It would be so lovely if there was a “happy medium”, wouldn’t it?

  36. Yes, men have no clue, even when they get a clue handed to them. Why can’t they read our minds? They’ve had centuries to develop that skill, yet they continue to play dumb.

  37. Haha…..men just can’t win either way!!

  38. They are screwed with us women aren’t they! I read this and laughed out loud because it explains me and my hubby to a T!
    I like Medajala’s system though…I may have to institute that into the marriage!

  39. It’s important to be on the same wavelength as your partner, whatever that level is. It can cause friction in a relationship and I don’t mean the mommy-and-daddy kind, quite the contrary! LOL!

  40. Men are so wired that they can’t cuddle without it turning into more… once my darling told me I wouldn’t even have to move!!! LOL!!! he’s a little crazy sometimes!!!

  41. lol Thats too funny! Im all about getting a good cuddle on. IF I’m in the mood to cuddle anyways…

  42. I’m a closet fan of cuddling. Just don’t tell the lady, otherwise she’ll gain even more power over me.

  43. I only said the other day…do you really have to maul me all the time?

  44. I like cuddles but I so get what you’re saying.

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  46. My men can cuddle like crazy. Sometimes he holds his hand on my boob or in my pants, just belove my waist… nothing deep 😉 and it’s really nice. we watch tv like that all the time. but sometimes it’s me who does not want to cuddle. I’m like Raguel. I like my space. I like to. He likes to cuddle a lot but nothing else. It’s hard to make it to the no 2 from “Medajala sysytem”. Cuddling for us never leads to sex. Never. hahahah… almost nothing leads to sex these days… and you’re complaining about too much sex. you want to switch!? lol
    hugs,

  47. My men can cuddle like crazy. Sometimes he holds his hand on my boob or in my pants, just belove my waist… nothing deep 😉 and it’s really nice. we watch tv like that all the time. but sometimes it’s me who does not want to cuddle. I’m like Raguel. I like my space. I like to. He likes to cuddle a lot but nothing else. It’s hard to make it to the no 2 from “Medajala sysytem”. Cuddling for us never leads to sex. Never. hahahah… almost nothing leads to sex these days… and you’re complaining about too much sex. you want to switch!? lol
    hugs,

  48. OMG I had the exact same talk with my husband last night! I think we live in parallel universes! BTW, I’m going to BlogHer too! Bought my ticket!!! Woot woot! Meet for drinks? Coffee?

  49. There are so many things about this post that I can relate to. Issues with coffee and chocolate. Want the cuddle then want the sex. Can’t win. 🙂

  50. Ha, I hope to find someone I can say those wonderful things about someday. 🙂 But for now, girl, just force your way in! Men are basic, as far as I can tell… but I’m obviously no expert.

  51. Have to say, at my house the Big Tuna is the cuddle bug and I am the harsh rejector.

  52. Coming from a guy, honestly, no, cuddling just won’t cut it sometimes. But, even if you say you’re “not that hot,” at least he thinks you are, and that’s important!

  53. Who doesn’t love some good cuddling?! haha!

  54. My husband thinks cuddling is something we do while naked.

    Sigh.

  55. Not a devil – you just like to mix things up every now and then… right? !

  56. I read something recently about men being more romantic than women and women being more practical – which fits our relationship – so I guess I’m not that into the cuddling…although my husband probably wouldn’t mind it – see I sound very practical right there!!! and I bet you are much hotter than you say.

  57. Oh man! I was thinking this. Exactly this. I love him to pieces, and yet if I told him just hold my hand or whatever I would feel all rejected too! Glad I am not the only one.

  58. Cuddling is nice sometimes. Thank goodness my hubz doesn’t expect more every night! I have to sleep!

  59. Bahaha! That cracked me up! I love it! And I can relate too!

  60. I read your post, I read the comments and it seems most men and women are the same. We want to cuddle, the want a bit more but if we ask please don’t then we feel guilty or unsatisfied. I am glad I’m not the only one, even after 30+ years.
    Take care and God Bless!!!

  61. kathy downey says:

    I love how honest you are,i married a cuddlier.

  62. kathy downey says:

    Sex can be over-rated….i love cuddling too!

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