I needed their rooms cleaned up.
I wanted them to practice their piano.
Showers are required.
Litter box must be cleaned.
Please girls, do your chores.
Girls, remember I asked you to clean the litter box?
Girls….
SweetGirl YOU are the one with the piano lesson tomorrow, not me.
nag nag nag nag
Is this my life now?
Screw this.
Let the bribery begin.
Clean your room and you can have ice cream for desert.
(You have never seen a room cleaned so fast in your life)
Who wants McDonald’s? Oh gee, wait a second. Did you clean the litter box and practice your piano yet? We can’t possibly go for a treat like McDonalds until you take care of those things first!
What’s that? You want to stay up and watch a little extra TV? Hmmm well sure, but how about jumping in the shower first.
Is this wrong? Maybe, but frankly it’s been a long flippin week here in the Suburbs and it is only Tuesday. If bribing your kids is wrong, I don’t want to be right!
Oh and PS. If you meet a Mama in the Suburbs who says she has never bribed her babies. Yeah, she is a liar.
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69 comments:
Hey, I had to be to work early last week, so I got Asher out of bed by offering him Oreos!
I'm seriously thinking of pinning a sign to my daughter "will work for candy"...surely beats nagging, works for me! I can't count the broccoli that's been consumed in anticipation of McDonald's ice cream...So I figure while I may be adding to the tendancy to be obese (she's not) at least she'll be simultaneously "healthy"!
My son is 6 months old and I've already tried bribing him haha
OMG bribery is the ONLY way to get things done in my crazy house. Never though it would come to that but it does and I don't care.
So true! And Great Post!
I call it positive reinforcement. Doesn't that sound much nicer?
I use this method often. But I kind of like how you cushioned the McDonald's bribe. "Oh gee, we can't possibly do ____ until ____ is done, can we?" I'm going to have to remember to be more subtle. ;-)
I think this is called "positive reinforcement" vs "negative reinforcement" which would be me. I tend to be more of the Mom who says "Clean the litter box or no tv" or "Feed the animals now or you won't be eating dinner until you do"
I should probably work on being more positive...
No guilt trip from me, I promise! I like to term it as "give & take".
Oh, Yeah! Works great for boys too!
Bribery is all I ever use. Works great for me.
i think bribery... i think it rocks!!!
Hell yeah..Ive even used money..I know very bad..also money for A's..why not we get bonuses and good pay for good work...now that they're older I still use .. some new item or clothing and the always appreciated later curfews...we're teaching them the American Way..wow that does'nt sound too good..!
I agree!! Anyone who says they haven't bribed their kids is lying through their teeth!!
~WM
i do it ALL the time. And I will admit it freely. Negotiation has to start early nowadays.
Every Mama (and Daddy, too for that matter) has to resort to bribery at some time. It works! My kids are older but bribery is the gift that keeps on giving!
Absolutely not wrong, it's what's called positive reinforcement, made famous by a Behaviorist named B.F. Skinner :)
I do all this daily...daily!
I always say "I gotta do what I gotta do"
hysterical and yeah bribery is my life. who wants to be a nag? thats horrible.
i used the I'll take you to mcdonalds if.... yesterday on my 6 year old son.
I hear this post loud and clear.. very funny but true.
Love,
kelly
It is the way of the world. Incentives, bribery, prostitution;)call it what you want... ;) If only my parents had considered bribing us with items or activities we valued, maybe we'd still be hanging out.
bribery is the best.
Whatever works my friend.
My son just got his report card and got straight A's.... First thing out of his mouth..."so what is my reward."
Heaven forbid your reward be how proud you made your parents....yeah right!!
Yep, I do it all the time, even as my head is screaming at me "this is a bribe, stop it!!".
As for chores, would it work to not serve them dinner until the chores are done? Not putting their plate out would be a reminder that they have something they need to do.
Of course, I haven't tried this yet, my kids are too little. But I plan to someday, you know, if the whole bribe thing starts to fail me. :)
I find that bribery is a wonderful tool in child rearing. I use it with the dogs too.
If I didn't bribe my kids, I would have a constant headache.
Spot on! as the mother to 3 teens & a 22 YO, this positive reinforcement works a treat!
When necessary...bribing is essential!
Bribery is a mother's best friend - embrace it :D
BY ANY MEANS NECESSARY!
Good for you.
I think a little bribery never hurt anyone :)
haha, LOVE IT! I use bribery at school too:)
Bribery always worked well when I was child. I don't think that there is anything wrong with it at all.
Whatever works!!!
Definitely believe in bribery!
Been there. Done that.
I TOTALLY did the McDonalds and video game bribe for a clean room TODAY! We are SOOOOOO awesome! BTW did you pick up the remarkable reader award on my blog? did ya?
not only do i open admit to using the bride on kids, I bride the hubbs too!
Bribery: Its a chicks power tool!
Bribery? What, you mean we shouldn't be doing that?!? ;)
As a parent of three grown children, I can say a few things.
Bribery is not good parenting......there are other parenting methods to bring about compliance.
Bribery sends the wrong message to our kids. They never learn to respect authority and listen to us.
Bribery was used many, many times by me over the years. Aren't I the hypocrite....LOLOLOLOL.
Sometimes you are at the end of your rope, and you just do what ya gotta do.
Just saw your blog... Nice to meet you!
You call this bribery? I call it incentive!!!
As soon as my son starts talking, I am going bribery all the way.
Its not called bribery, its called motivation. Give my kids the right motivation and they'll do just about anything. Way to go mom.
Nothing wrong with bribery. I've promised my son any Thomas train he wants if he starts using the potty. So far no luck.
You must of missed that chapter in the Mom's Book...it's there, you just need to reread it! :)
hey, you do what you gotta do ;) i have to bribe my 8 year old to clean up his room too! that little stinker drives me bananas!
Funny! I bribe my almost 3 year old all the time!
Following from MBC! ;-)
Bribery...it is a good thing. We do it when we get older too...it is called a paycheck.
If it works, stick with it.
My kids...Valentines Day is right around the corner. We have little gifts (I prefer jewelry, but that is just me) we exchange (pick out my own and act surprised).
Bribery is a must, because there are some days, we don't have anything else!
lol yes bribery works!
I tried bribing my kids, but they were such buggers one told me at the age of 4 that he could not be bribed - argh! One of so few tools we moms can weild.
Bribery definately works better than threats. I have actually had my daughter tell me to go ahead and thow the stuff she left out away. Imagine her suprise when I did!
That is the best lesson, that they work first, and receive some compensation for doing so. My brother never learned that one as a kid and he has spent ten years expecting compensation for nothing.
Kids learn fast, as long as there are lessons; you're doing the right thing.
Secretia
This was too funny! I couldn't agree more :) I even bribe the G.I. Joe every once in a while!
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I bribe my 4 year-old twins constantly. Always good to know I'm not alone in that respect. In fact, I'm not sure they'd ever agree to bathe or clean up their rooms if a treat of some kind wasn't involved!!!
Bribe on and do it with a happy heart!
Sometimes bribery definitely works.
Let the bribing continue...what the heck, it happens in real grown up life, right?
He he. My dad used to bribe us with spanking, only in reverse. "Do you want to get spanked? No? Then behave OR ELSE!"
I was gypped!
I bribe my kids all the time! It is a wonderful tool.
I'll give you chocolate if you don't tell anyone that I bribe, too.
Sometimes I think they just wait for the bribing before they will do anything.
Some times bribery is a must! I do it all the time. It works, it's easier and I'm tired. :)
Carry no shame or guilt in bribery...it works...then they continue on...thinking they still get the bribe at a later date...suckers!
I bribe all the time - its the only way that I can get my boys to cooperate sometimes!
McDonalds ALWAYS worked on me - still does! LOL! That's what my husband uses on me when he wants something!
Must say I might even work harder for some awesome bribery... here that husband.
My mom totally bribed us. It totally worked. Ain't no shame!
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